以下是一位澳洲筆友的來信內容，中文意思是，愛最高形式的表現是仁慈的大愛，與伴侶間的小愛不同，我覺得理想的愛與自由(自在)有關，所以對我們的伴侶所表現的慈悲似乎就像是幫助他們能夠更加的自由(自在)，因此若要與某人維持關係，你要讓彼此都感覺很自由(自在)，而不要為了自己的欲望而擁有或控制對方，覺得講得很有道理，我們有時往往會以自己的觀點在關心對方，其實有時已經造成對方的困擾或讓對方產生壓力，謹記!

A love for humanity is the highest form of love expression. Its quite different from the limited love of a partner relationship. I think love ideally is about freedom. So to express compassion for our partner it seems like it helps them to be freer. To be in a relationship with someone so you can set each other free! Not want to have and keep them in an idea of your own desires.