你會否相信簡單的一句說話，甚至只是一個字詞，可以很大程度上影響自己或他人的情緒？書中本章節提到的例子，可能會勾起你種種相類似的經歷呢。

然而有趣的地方在於，運用相同的原理，原來自己能夠選擇以正面的方式，應用到自己身上。


"...　how　we　talk　to　ourselves—the　specific　words　we　use—controls　the　way　we　think.　And　the　way　we　think　controls　how　we　feel　and　what　we　do."


"Why　do　you　feel　a　little　peeved,　instead　of　furious?　...　if　you　get　angry,　you　lose　control.　And　the　other　guy　wins　..."


"His　word　had　a　definite　effect　on　him—and　on　me.　Somehow,　saying　"peeved"　made　me　feel　less　upset."


"I　left　on　a　business　trip,　got　to　my　hotel,　and　found　they　didn't　have　a　room　for　me.　"Excuse　me,"　I　said,　"but　the　longer　I　stand　here,　the　more　I　feel　myself　getting peeved."　The　clerk　looked　up,　not　quite　knowing　how　to　react,　and　smiled　in　spite　of　himself.　I　had　to　smile　back."


"I　used　this　word　again　and　again.　Each　time,　I　thought　it　was　so　stupid　that　it　broke　my　pattern　of　anger　or　frustration,　and　it　immediately　lowered　my　emotional　intensity."


"Maybe　this　tool　sounds　inanely　simple.　It　couldn't　be　that　easy　to　change　how　we　feel　just　by　changing　our　language!　But　the　truth　is　that　words　do　have　the　power　to　change　how　we　feel."


"If,　for　example,　you　were　told　that　you're mistaken about　something,　you　might　have　one　reaction.　If　you're　told　you're wrong,　you　might　have　a　more　intense　reaction.　If　you're　told　you're lying—although　that's　essentially　the　same　statement—just　by　changing　one　word,　the　way　you　think　and　feel　could　be　changed　in　a　moment　..."


"...　think　of　some　new　words　you　could　use　instead.　Make　them　silly,　if　you　want.　Have　fun!"


"Negative　Emotion/Expression　->　Transforms　Into

angry　->　disenchanted

depressed　->　calm　before　action

disappointed　->　delayed

embarrassed　->　aware

that　stinks　->　that's　a　little　aromatic

failed　->　learned　something

lost　->　searching

terrible　->　different"


"Positive　Word/Expression　->　Transforms　into

awake　->　energized

cool　->　outrageous

pretty　good　->　unstoppable

fortunate　->　unbelievably　blessed

good　->　can't　get　any　better

okay　->　super

quick　->　explosive

smart　->　brilliant

tasty　->　sumptuous"


"Start　using　your　new　choices　right　away.　Make　sure　you're　having　a　"blast",　and　you're　not　just　"killing　time"."